People will want to tell you their wild stories of problem behavior. These stories can go on and on and on. They often involve people getting hurt, bodily fluids, dramatic episodes in public places, and other extreme situations. It is critical that we show empathy and try to understand what that person is experiencing. If people don’t think you understand, you won’t be able to develop the necessary rapport with them to be effective.
Now, of course, the main solution is effective assessment and treatment that produces long-term success. But that takes time.
What should you do right away? Just don’t let him do that! Lock up the iPad. Block him before he reaches in the toilet and grabs the feces. Skip going to the play group. Hold her hand so she doesn’t run in the street.
This seems obvious, but often it isn’t. People will ask you “What am I supposed to do? Never make him do his homework?” No, of course not. But it is critical to prevent (as much as possible) dramatic episodes while delivering effective assessment and treatment services that will lead to long term success.
A surprisingly effective procedure in the short run is just- Don’t let him do that.